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These are all questions about trying to conceive posed in the last 2-3 days.  I did not edit them at all.  I didn't want to insult the integrity of their questions. 

Any pregnancy chances for this month?

Last period was Oct 19th. Have a 30-31 day cycle

Had sex Oct 25-26-27-28-31 and Nov 1-4-5-6-9-10-13

Sheesh!  You must be unmarried, newlyweds, or you are a bunny rabbit.  

Why do people say its selfish?

I'm 15 years old and want to have a baby very badly. My boyfriend thinks that its selfish that I want on at such a young age. I just want something for me to love and have all the time.. He says that I have him.. But I only see him on the weekends. I understand that it could be hard to raise a baby.. But its something I want.. I'm trying to overcome this want for my boyfriend.. But I feel like trying isn't enough for him.. He still thinks I'm crazy and selfish.. Do you think its selfish? And why?

My boyfriend has a full time time job and makes 10 dollars an hour. I'm looking for a job right now. ITS NOT SELFISH ITS THE NEED FOR LOVE! So what if I'm still in school? My mom was a teen mom and graduated! My grandmother was a teen mom and graduated! So does that mean every woman who wants a baby is selfish? And, I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year and a half...

If graduating is your definition of success then you will be fine.  

Help pls???

Well I been tryna get preqnant fo a year now but my gf wont let meh shes 34 im 21 I love her so much everytyme I go to sleep ive dream abt been a new mommy or been pregnant the dream seem true . I wanna kno wat can I do to makee it happen .

I'm just confused.  So confused!  You want to be a new mommy so you are trying to get your "gf" pregnant?    Two girls cannot make a baby.  Perhaps your "gf" knows this????

Stopping sex

How much time one should stop sex before conceiving, so that a healthy child is produced?

Stopping before conception means that there is no baby made.  Gotta do the baby dance to make the baby!

Advice pls!!! Help!

what does it mean when your boy friend randomly was thinkin about how you would look pegnant.......? my boy friend randomly was thinking how i would look pregnant and he told me he thought i would be a cute pregnant girl.......i know what his saying but what is he implying.does he want me to be prgnant or something in that nature like why would he randomly be thinking about that

I'm randomly thinking about how you would look with a chastity belt.  What do you think that means?

Can she be pregnant? can sperm go through 4 layers of clothes?

The other day, me and my girlfriend were hugging and kissing and sorta laying on top of each other. When I was above her, I unexpectedly climaxed, and quickly got up and went to the restroom. When I checked, I saw a wet stop the size of a halfdollar or so on my shorts. My question is, can she be pregnant by this? We had 4 layers of clothes between us, and I'm really freaking out.

Half dollar is okay but a buffalo nickle is a recipe for disaster.

Is it supposed to whistle?

When I urinate it seems that enough air passes through such that there is a very loud whistle. I can no longer urinate in public, is this supposed to happen?

I have no words for the whistling pee pee.  That is just messed up!

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Original post date was 2/7/11
There was a time when I would go to a doctor when I had a health problem and I would just follow their instructions because, well, they are the doctors. They have letters after their name that is supposed to tell me that they know more than me, right? In the past few years I have changed my thinking on this.

I started charting my cycles when I wanted to conceive my first baby. Within a few weeks I really learned how amazing our bodies are and how much they really tell us on a day to day basis. When I got pregnant, I stopped charting (as anyone who charts will tell you to do once you get your positive pregnancy test) until a couple of months after I got my cycles back. Much to my surprise, I had another positive home pregnancy test with my first chart! When I went to the Emergency Room due to the spotting that had really turned more into bleeding, the doctor told me that I was 6 weeks pregnant. I told him that according to my ovulation, I should be about 6 weeks and 3 days. I know that measuring 3 days off on an early ultrasound is not cause for alarm but I thought it was worth mentioning. The doctor gave me a quick grin and told me that I couldn't really know when I ovulated. I told him that I had been charting and I did know when I ovulated according to my temperature, fertility signs, and ovulation pains that happen (for me) a couple of days leading up to my ovulation. He said, "Oh. Okay." in a way that clearly told me that he didn't believe me but wasn't going to debate it.

After my second loss I went in to see my doctor. I asked my OB about using Welcome Womb herbs to prevent miscarriage she dismissed my idea without further consideration. She did give me some line about how herbs aren't FDA regulated and therefore shouldn't be used since there haven't been studies (with government oversight) to determine what they actually do. So, her plan of action was going to be to run some tests when I got pregnant again, meaning beta hcg and progesterone. As most of you know, and I know now, running those tests doesn't keep anyone pregnant. The progesterone may be able to be improved if it is low but that wasn't going to tell me anything. Well, despite having doubling (just barely) hcg numbers and progesterone within normal limits, that pregnancy was lost as well.

After several more months of charts under my belt, and a couple more losses, I went to my OB armed with questions. I wanted to know why I was losing the pregnancies. This was the first time that when I wasn't satisfied with an answer, I continued to ask for more clarification, explanation, and information. After a few questions where my doctor couldn't answer to my satisfaction, she finally was willing to admit that she didn't know the answer. That was a major turning point in my relationship with my doctor. In a good way. Now, my doctor was nothing more that a woman a few years older than me who read some books in college that taught her what she knows. She and I just read different books. We began working together to figure out how to proceed. It was no longer me just nodding and wondering what I was going to do next. We were a team. A team that decided it was time to go to a specialist. A Reproductive Endocrinologist. With a name like that, I had to get some answers!

Well, I didn't. But again, I asked my questions and didn't stop until I was satisfied with his answers. I like Dr. Mooney, a lot, because he really took his time to talk, explain, and clarify and didn't seem to get a bruised ego if I questioned his opinions. Again, I developed a great relationship with my doctor because I refused to think of him as anything other than a guy who read different books than me.

I don't want anyone to think that I am not appreciative of doctors. I have a lot of respect for them since, I am sure, medical school isn't a piece of cake. I just wish that more people could recognize that doctors, while highly educated and skilled, are really just people. They lose their car keys, misplace their television remote, and burn dinner. They probably have cried themselves to sleep once. They have probably been an a car accident that was their own fault. I remind myself of this every time I walk into a doctor's office. I can't be intimidated by them and I can't assume they have all of the answers. I need to be able to communicate with them so that, together, we can solve whatever problem we have using both of our brains.

When I decided, with Dr. Mooney's knowledge and blessing, to try the Welcome Womb and went on to have a happy and healthy pregnancy, I couldn't help but wonder that if I hadn't just gracefully accepted my OB's opinion on herbs, if my whole life would have been different. I know that everything happens for a reason and that if I had tried the herbs and they had worked, I wouldn't have my dear sweet Joseph who is worth everything I went through. Still makes me wonder though.

I wish I was wise enough to claim these words as my own, but I am not.  These words were written by Megan on her blog here.  Thanks Megan!  I needed this!

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Our story really begins way back in 2006.  My husband and I had recently started using Natural Family Planning (NFP) as we had recently realized some things about birth control that caused us some concern.  We were married fairly young and weren't quite ready to begin having children.  Shortly after starting NFP we found out we were pregnant, which was very exciting - and unexpected.  We ended up miscarrying that baby when we were just under 8 weeks along.  While still using NFP we conceived and miscarried two more babies that year. 

I was put on progesterone and in April of 2007 I became pregnant again and was able to carry this baby to term and deliver a beautiful, healthy little girl.  We thought we had found the solution to our miscarriages with the progesterone.  We waited until our little one was 18 mo. old and began trying again.  We conceived quickly and easily but within a week we had miscarried that baby.  We spent the next year trying to conceive again and then when all hope had run out - we conceived again!  Still taking progesterone, it was almost another week when we lost that baby as well.  It took another year of trying and once again - when we were at the end of our rope - we were pregnant.  This time taking baby aspirin, and receiving progesterone shots (as opposed to pills).  But after just a week, all my hormone levels had dropped and baby was gone shortly after. 

I had been sharing my journey on my blog, and a friend of mine directed me to Maria's blog where I was so thrilled to find someone who could finally understand all that we had gone through.  There is nothing worse than feeling like you just don't fit.  Although my friends were very supportive and encouraging, few of them had experienced a miscarriage, and none (that I knew of) had experienced multiple miscarriages.  

I ate up Maria's site!  I read every inch and it was in her story that I first heard Welcome Womb mentioned.  She had definitely piqued my interest, so I started doing some research.  However, at this point, I was much less concerned with carrying a child as I was with conceiving since I was sure we had another year of trying before I'd be pregnant again. 

What I found out about Welcome Womb was encouraging, and I asked Maria about a dozen questions! 

It was just a month and a half after miscarrying my 6th baby that I discovered (rather unexpectedly) that I was pregnant, again.  I would be lying if I told you I was excited, I prepared myself for the absolute worst.  I just wasn't emotionally ready to lose another baby. But I acknowledged my pregnancy, called the dr's office right away, asked if they had anything else I could try to keep this baby.  They had nothing.  Literally, nothing.  So, I told them I was going to take Welcome Womb - and the nurse suggested I not.  But I cried, told her I had little other options at this point - and she said that she understood. 

I ordered the tincture and had it shipped overnight.  I spotted that night, and was a little nervous - but the Welcome Womb arrived the next morning and I began taking it regularly.  I haven't spotted since!  My friends prayed and prayed, supported and loved me through the first few weeks.  As each week passed I was more and more shocked that I was still pregnant!  My Hcg levels were amazing, when I asked the nurse my jaw almost fell to the floor.  I was shocked!   We went in for our first ultrasound that showed a yolk sac, then a week and a half later we had another one that showed a tiny little heartbeat, and two weeks later we saw our little one moving around with a beautiful beating heart.  And at my most recent appointment with my midwife, we were blessed to be able to hear a tiny heartbeat with the doppler. 

I told my midwife I had been taking Welcome Womb, she asked what was in it - and then she said "Can you bring it with you next time?  I'd like to tell women about it, if it really works."  I was so surprised, I really thought she might think I was nuts! 

So, as I approach 12 weeks on Sunday, and if the unending crying of this afternoon is any indication, my hormone levels are continuing to rise...  I have to say, that I don't know if this baby is just lucky, like my daughter, or if the Welcome Womb did the trick.  But, I do know that I do not regret taking the WW.  I'm so glad I gagged it down...and in May I very much so look forward to welcoming another child into our home!  


Congratulations to you, Brie!  Thank you so much for sharing your story with us!  Love and prayers for you and your whole family as you welcome the newest addition in May!  

If you are interested in learning more about the ingredients of Welcome Womb, click on the links.
False Unicorn Root, Wild Yam, and Black Haw

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These are all questions about trying to conceive posed in the last 2-3 days.  I did not edit them at all.  I didn't want to insult the integrity of their questions.

Ok this may sound stupid but my period is 3 days late today and I did not have sex all we did was fool around ?With clothes on, hpt is negative but I'm scared pls help!!!!

Sad thing is that based on the last year, her chances of pregnancy are just as good as mine.

I am 26 days late and i took 3 tests all positive am i pregnant i have nausea and back pain ?

Ummmm... Seriously?  This kind of thing makes me cringe and makes me a little jealous at the same time.

Can pre-mature sperm get you pregnant?

So can immature ones.  Please wait to have kids.

Should a 16 year old girl be having sex with a 21 year old male? We have been humping and grinding the last hour and want to move on, but is it right,

So let me understand this... you have been "humping and grinding" for an hour and you decided to pause, grab a glass of water, and ask the virtual world about if you can have permission to go all the way?  The answer is NO!  Didja listen?

Me and my boyfriend don't get to see eachother much, so we can't try regularly. Is there any good timing i should know about? I dont know much about ovulation and stuff but i guess im asking for a simple answer...like...how many weeks/days after or before period bleeding? And is it true that certain positions help and what not???

 Why do people try to have babies before they are married?  How often does this really end well?  But beyond that, "a simple answer?"  Uhhhh... Chances are that because you aren't married, young, and not thinking beyond next week, you will get pregnant really quickly.  That seems to be how it works most of the time.  If you are very short sighted, pregnancy will take place almost at about the moment you decided to try.  Plan ahead?  Be responsible?  Be patient.

Me and my husband have been trying for 3 years then found out he had no sperm at all it's totally heartbroken me and my husband we cannot afford sperm donor and would be great full for a free one, husband is black so please help

I totally laughed out loud at this one.  What!?  My favorite part is the last line.   It sounds like she is saying that she needs help because her husband is black.

Possible "intercourse" date (didn't penetrate, didn't ejaculate, but was near the area): Sept 8th
Period: Sept 12th
HCG Blood Test #1: Sept 26th - Neg
HCG Blood Test #2: Oct 17th - Neg
Period: Oct 17th

Is it possible that the HCG levels weren't high enough to register a positive pregnancy? I have one light, short period, and one normal period since then. But I am not sure if these were "periods" or "pregnancy bleedings".

Maybe infertility has made me insensitive.  But, if having a man "near the area" could result in a pregnancy then there would have to be a Maury Povich Network 24 hours a day of "Who's the Daddy?" episodes.  Plus, I have been known to take a pregnancy test once or twice after my period has shown up but after two negative blood tests and two periods since the having a fella in the vicinity of your baby maker, it is time to move on.
 

Now check out part 2 , 3 , 4, 5, 6, 7, and 8!  Each one is better than the last!  




 

 I'm back to my old post revivals.  I would love your comments, thoughts, and impressions!
Originally posted 1/10/11
I was beginning to really think long and hard about my life as a mother. I always pictured me with several children and here I was with one. One fantastic child but... one. I wasn't ready to throw in the towel just yet on my dreams of a large family but I had to decide how we were going to get there. I looked at various sites about adoption and read message board experiences with adopting and was starting to think that was the direction to go. Then, I came across a site that really spoiled my attitude about that plan. I don't mean to hurt anyone's feelings that choose or have chosen adoption. These are just my thoughts.

I was learning that the wait for adopting a newborn would be as long as or longer than a pregnancy. Learning this made me eager to sign up right away so that I wouldn't have to wait any longer than necessary to add to my family. Then, as I was surfing the net for agencies, attorneys I came across a page that listed babies that were available for adoption. Now. I read through the list that listed their info like male or female, open or closed adoption, locations, races, and if the birth mother was known to have used or is currently using drugs or alcohol. Then in the last column was the prices. All of the sudden it hit me. I was shopping online for a baby. Some were on sale (my words not theirs) due to maternal drug use, or other known or suspected medical issues. Some were more expensive because they were presumed to be healthy or the mother was expecting the adoptive parents to pay rent and or medical bills. I just couldn't believe that I would ever be able to chose a baby based on price or race or whatever other criterion I found to be of importance. I wanted God to choose for me and I wasn't sure how that would happen with adoption. I decided to table the adoption decision for a while until we got the results form our genetic testing back.

During the wait I did my share of "why me" questioning. I wanted to know what was wrong with me. Why did other women who weren't married, on drugs, already proven to be horrible parents, etc. get pregnant, often without "trying", and end up with a beautiful baby in their arms 9 months later? Here I was, a healthy, loving mother and wife who wanted nothing more than to conceive and keep a pregnancy that actually resulted in a live, screaming, crying baby. Then my husband said this. "Sometimes we have to realize that it isn't always about us."

At first I thought, "Are you kidding me? How is me miscarrying 6 times in a row not about us?!"

He went on to explain his thought. While I can't recall his exact wording the message was this. God is the one calling the shots. His plan for us may not have anything to do with us ending up with a second child or not. It could have everything to do with how our experience will somehow effect someone else's life.

I took that little nugget of thought with me as I went about my day to day activities. I really tried to focus more on how Doug's comments could really be true. I was shopping at Walmart for odds and ends but the primary reason for my trip was that I wanted to buy ovulation tests. Since I was there I picked up some groceries that we needed too. As I walked down an isle glancing at various dinner options I happened to notice a woman a few paces ahead of me. I then saw that she had dropped her grocery list. While I was lost in my thoughts most of the day, I took a moment to pick up the list, speed up a step or two, and ask her if she dropped her list. She looked at me and then at the list. She quickly gave an exhale of relief and thanked me profusely. A few seconds of small talk and a couple more smiles and we were both on our ways. Then I thought about it. "Maybe it isn't always about me." I know that I will never know that woman's story but I began to think about her. Perhaps, my interaction with her was just what she needed that day. Maybe she was depressed and feeling invisible. Maybe she wasn't. Maybe there was something very important on that list that she would have forgotten had I not been there to pick it up and retrieve it. Maybe that one item being forgotten could have changed her life. I know it sounds crazy since there are a million and a half "what ifs" but I needed to do this. Maybe the item she forgot would have made her go back out to the store again later and she would have been killed in a car accident. So, maybe, just maybe, my going to Walmart to buy ovulation tests saved that woman's life. If any of my pregnancies would have been successful I wouldn't have needed those tests and that interaction never would have taken place.

It may sound ridiculous to some but this is how I managed to lift the haze of my recurrent miscarriages. As I moved throughout my daily life I challenged myself, and still do, to interact with as many people as I can since I don't know who God intends me to meet or share my faith with. I find it to be really quite reassuring that my losses weren't for nothing. They could very well be about me deciding to write about my experiences today to impact one of you.

While it is so very tempting to think that God had me miscarry to teach me something, tell me something, or lead me somewhere, I have chosen to see it as God needing me to help him do something. I may never know what that something is but, wow, what an important job I have. I am so blessed.

I am so thankful that Doug shared his thoughts with me that day. His comment has really changed how I view my life, my relationship with God, and my purpose here on Earth.

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For those of you who may be new to my blog, I had a rough journey with recurrent miscarriages while trying to have my second child.  After trying every medical intervention suggested and having each and every one of them fail, I was hanging onto my sanity by a thread.  My last ditch effort to save my most recent pregnancy was by using herbs.  By the grace of God, after 6 consecutive miscarriages, I gave birth to my second son, Joseph.  

In the last few weeks, my husband and I have started our own business and blog called Chapter One Herbs.  We are selling the same herbal tincture, Welcome Womb, that I believe helped me to stay pregnant along with a variety of other herbal tinctures and teas for starting and growing families.

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If you are trying to conceive or plan to soon, TTC Tea is an excellent blend of 7 herbs that help promote fertility and hormonal balance for the female reproductive system.  Drink this tea 1-3 times daily until pregnant!




Green Tea has a number of health benefits that range from possibly lowering your risk of heart disease and certain types of cancer, as well as potentially aiding in weight loss.  But, what you may not know is that it also has been used to promote fertility.  Green Tea can improve the quality of cervical mucus making it more hospitable for sperm!  If you aren't trying to conceive, it is okay to drink it just because it tastes refreshing!



Red Raspberry Leaf Tea (commonly abbreviated as RRL Tea) is a fantastic way to strengthen and tone the uterus.  It is often credited with helping labor by making contractions more efficient.  Some midwives encourage its use throughout pregnancy, while some prefer it be drunk only in the last trimester.  I started drinking RRL Tea daily at 32 weeks of pregnancy.  I increased the frequency to 2-3 times a day as I got closer to my due date.  I don't know if it was the RRL Tea, but I gave birth to a 10 pound 3 ounce baby boy with only one push in the stirrups!  This is also a great gift idea for anyone who is expecting and/or planning a natural childbirth! 



Peppermint Tea is a favorite for so many because of the menthol aroma and flavor.  Peppermint has been used for years to treat stomach upset, nausea, diarrhea and even headaches!   This is also a great way to end an evening meal.  After all, who hasn't heard of an after dinner mint?



Most people have heard of drinking Chamomile Tea to improve sleep, but it may also ease menstrual cramps, sooth your stomach due to flu or other digestive upset, and help with anxiety.  Also, if you are one of the unlucky people who suffer from migraine headaches, you may find that drinking a cup of Chamomile Tea at the first sign of a headache may be of benefit!  For those who are trying to conceive, this may be your answer to those people who tell you to, "Just relax.  It will happen."


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