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Showing posts with label Santa Claus. Show all posts
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Thursday, October 20, 2011
Do Your Kids Trust You?
We aren't doing the Santa thing. Totally skipping it. Completely. When Doug first brought this up I thought he was quite possibly the meanest dad in the world! I mean, is he the real life version of the Grinch? Why should kids miss out on this age old fun tradition of believing! Then, after more discussion, I understood his reasoning. Not only did I understand it, I agreed. Hello. My name is Mrs. Grinch.
This post is not intended to ruin Christmas for children all over the world. That isn't my goal. I just want you to better understand why we aren't going to play the Santa game and why I think you should be cautious when reading "'Twas the Night Before Christmas" this year.
As parents, it is our responsibility to teach our children about God. We read stories about God. We pray to God each night before bed or at dinner and thank Him and ask Him for things. We teach about God whenever we can. We remind our children that God wants us to do good things not bad. Then November comes and we read books about Santa. We ask Santa for things either in person or in writing. And we love the opportunity to warn our kids that Santa won't bring presents if we are naughty instead of nice. See the similarities?
Then, one day, the fantastic months of good behavior prior to Christmas come to an abrupt stop. That is the day that our little Christmas Elf comes home from school with a slightly tear stained face and a broken heart. "Johnny up the road told me that Santa isn't real. He told me everything. He told me that you and Dad are the ones that put the presents under the tree. I am going to my room."
As most parents have, you have planned how to handle that sad day. Whether you have chosen to explain it as a fun game that he will play one day with his/her children , or that Santa is a symbol of love, or some other attempt at smoothing things over, the bottom line is that your kid will have discovered that you spent the first 8 (or so) years of their life lying to them.
Maybe they won't hold a grudge. It wasn't like I consciously was angry at my parents for lying to me when I was growing up. But there is something a little more important going on here. All of the sudden kids realize, "If my parents can lie to me about Santa for 8 years then what about all of the other things that they have told me. And now they want me to believe that this God character exists too? Not a chance. Fool me once. Shame on you! Fool me twice? Not gonna happen. You can keep telling me the stories but, I've learned my lesson."
I do not want my kids to ever think they cannot trust me. For us, we have decided that our kids trusting us and having faith in our Father, is a much higher priority than playing a very elaborate game of "Let's Pretend." Santa is a pretty fun dude and is full of cheerful traditions but none of that is as important to us as risking our children not getting to spend their eternity with Our Creator.
We will be explaining to Gavin (and Joey someday) that other kids and families like to pretend that Santa Claus comes and bring presents on Christmas. If he want's to play pretend with them, that is fine but if he chooses not to, just find something else to talk about or play with. Don't ruin their game of pretend. I will try to do everything in my power to make sure that my kids are not the "Johnnies up the road."
What do you think? Are we crazy?
Friday, February 11, 2011
Do You Believe in Santa Claus?
"I want a corn silk Cabbage Patch Kid, " I said, making sure that his eyes told me he was familiar with the doll. I left the mall feeling pretty confident that Santa was going to make good on his end of the bargain.
When Christmas morning finally arrived I ran down the stairs eying all of the wrapped packages on the floor. I knew the shape of the doll box quite well and wasn't able to scout it out. I had that nervous excitement pouring over every inch of me as I eagerly anticipated finding the box amidst the heaps of gifts. Even though I couldn't see it right away, I knew it was there. It was under something or behind something. Or, maybe Santa hid it somewhere special as a big surprise at the end.
I opened all of my gifts and while they were nice, they weren't nice enough to make me forget about my Cabbage Patch kid with the corn silk hair. After the last gift had been handed to my brother and we watched him open it, I waited.
I waited to hear my parents say, "Oops! We almost forgot! Santa left a special gift in the (insert whatever plausible room here) for you Maria!" But as the wrapping paper was all balled up and thrown away and my brother was busy playing with his toys, I realized, there was no doll. Santa
It is no wonder there are so many people who say that they don't believe in God. For whatever reason, adults find it necessary to tell children about how God is good and does good things to those who believe in Him. If you ask God for something and pray about it, God will give you what you ask for. Maybe adults still believe this because that is what they were told by their parents. But this is like telling the fairy tale version of the Bible and skipping the part with the villain because it might be too scary for young ears. Then when those children grow up and ask God for something and they don't get it, well, the only rational conclusion is that he isn't real.
I took this from a comment on a friends blog:
But for some to preach that there is an all-knowing, all-powerful merciful entity that pulls the strings of every single thing that happens to every human being, every moment of every day, is ludicrous. Perhaps creation was the brain child of some superior being, but I cannot believe that an all-knowing, entity does not know that 250,000 men, women & children will be killed by a tsunami that could have been stopped with the wave of an all-powerful, merciful hand. And, to award the saving of a single life to the entity that could have prevented the entire disaster is ridiculous.
By this thought process, one would then assume that in our world there would be no sickness, death, crime, pain, suffering, loss, etc. Just because God can do something doesn't mean that he will. Everything does happen for a reason and the Bible talks about what happens to us if we sin. We, every last one of us, are sinners. We knowingly sin against God and the price we pay is a tsunami that kills 250,000 men, women, and children. The Bible doesn't hide the reality of this. For some reason, we like to hide behind the cloak of God being Santa Claus and then when we are hurting and God doesn't take all of our pains away we feel like we have been duped just like when we realized that Santa isn't real.
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